First, consider the fact that NO individual Spiritual Gift is possessed by every believer. There is no chapter in the Bible that supports such a belief that says that everyone should seek the Spiritual Gift of Tongues. All believers in Christ by Faith receive at least one "Gift" from the Holy Spirit at the time of Redemption. No individual has ALL of the Gifts of The Spirit and NO single Gift of the Spirit is given to ALL Believers!
I have heard two young women pray in so-called "Tongues" but they did nothing more than a lot of babbling. One of the women is my cousin. I am not at this time claiming that the gift of Tongues no longer exists, but I am saying that you need to be VERY careful about who you allow into your lives! These women were deceived! There are gifts given to believers according to the plan of God through His Holy Spirit but we are not in any way in control of which gift or gifts that we receive! It is solely a work of God in our lives! If you meet someone who is part of a group who believes that you are somehow not a Spirit filled Christian apart from the practice of Tongues then get as far away from that person as possible because they are themselves deceived or intentionally deceiving others!
Now, a little about myself. I started experiencing spiritual events at the age of 18 and at that time Satan appeared no further than two feet from my face. It was in a well-lit room and in the presence of my wife and younger sister. My sister saw Satan appear in front of me from across the room and was extremely frightened by what she saw happen to me. My wife saw nothing! It was late 2009 when she finally told me that she also saw Satan but had been too terrified to even talk to me about it. This was 37 years after the event happened! I saw demons when I was in my twenties, both awake and in my dreams. A demon tried to possess me near the top of Mount Diablo in California while camping. Demons are territorial and this was the demon that the Native Americans had worshipped on that small mountain for 5000 years, according to the sign at the very top of this mountain which I saw the following morning, after the event. I did not have any idea what Diablo meant until sometime later. I had no idea that I was camping on "Devil Mountain"! I have since learned that I have the "Gift" called "Discerning of Spirits" which allows me to recognise those who belong to Satan as well as "Tares" or false Christians in the "Body of Christ". It is a very difficult Gift and one that I would not have chosen if I had been given the choice!
I invite anyone who reads this to contact me with your questions.